Aggressiveness and timidity
Children learn to curb their aggressiveness. Do you worry when the two-year child seizes another's hair or when four other robs a toy gun?Some parents believe that such aggression should immediately put down.No doubt, our civilized life would be impossible if people were not able to contain his aggressiveness.But parents should not worry too much about it.A normal child he gradually learns that with the development of his character and good relationships with their parents.
Think about how the child's aggression is transformed in different periods of development.A hungry baby in a rage all over the world.One year old, when he was annoyed, can hit his mother in the face, if it allows it to him.For one and a half years, if it is brought up gently, but firmly, he had to refrain from such an attack, but it will show their anger, stamping his feet.
year-old child has no hesitation scoop on the head of another, if he took his toy.Much more civilized four.He argued with the robber, at least at first.
Meanwhile, he learns to vent their aggressive tendency in the game.First, it is a very simple game.He aims a toy pistol and said: "Bah!I will shoot you! "It amused the idea of murder.But do not blame him or to "educate".He already knows, that can not cause harm to others, and to let off steam in the game.(This is one of the reasons for the love of children's stories about violence.) You can go a little further and suggest that the child who is able to play to wound and murder can result to be much more friendly than the one who has such aspirations constrains.
When the boys reach the age of six to ten years, their games depicting violence, become more organized.High school students and college children's games are no longer satisfied.Their place is occupied by sport, sports, debates and the struggle for supremacy in the study.All these activities require a certain aggressiveness.But this aggressiveness is controlled by dozens of rules and conditions.
When a man goes out into the adult world and goes to work, he still needs his aggressive instincts, but they are more controlled and civilization.He competes for a higher position in the service.He is trying to make their business successful.On the farm, he fights the bad weather and pests and compete with other farmers in the autumn fair.
In other words, when the year-old child hit another on the head, or four plays in the shooting, or nine-credited bloodthirsty comic books, he passes the necessary steps to curb their aggressive tendencies, and it will make him a worthy citizen.
I'm not saying that you should not do anything, if your small child is unusually angry towards other children or if your eldest son over the other boys interested in violence.Excessive aggression requires deterrence, and this is easy to achieve, if you look more closely
Bad words. sometimes three, often four years the child passes through the stage where he likes bad words.Children insult each other such expressions as "You're a big ass" or "I will cleanse you in the toilet" and consider themselves to be ingenious and brave.This should be considered a normal part of their development.You can ask the child to stop if you do not like, or you can let him play until he was tired.
Growing up, all children communicate with each other, and they have a chance to get acquainted with obscene or "dirty" words.Long before they understand the meaning of these words, children are aware that they are bad.As human beings, they repeated them to show that they are big and are not afraid to be a little bad.Conscientious and conscious parents typically experience a strong shock, hearing such words from the mouth of your children, that they seem so innocent.What to do in such a case, a good parent?Better not to faint, and not pretend that you are mortally offended or frightened.For a shy child is too strong a test: he will become anxious and afraid of other children who use such words.But most of the children, to find that the words shocked parents rejoice at heart.Some will now repeat their homes, hoping to produce the same effect.Others, which will keep the threat of the use of obscene words at home, other places will still pronounce them.The fact is that when you tell your child that using simple sounds he can shock the whole world, you seem to give it into the hands of real-charged gun and say: "Do not shoot out of it."On the other hand, I do not think that you ought to keep silent and reconcile.Can you tell the child firmly that you are like most other people do not like to hear these words and do not want it used them.