The independence and sociability
He is at one and the same time more dependent and independent. This may seem paradoxical.Mother complains about his year-old son: "He starts to cry every time I leave the room."This does not mean that he had developed a bad habit: he just grew up enough to realize how much he depends on the mother.This is inconvenient, but it's a good sign.
becomes more dependent this age, the child at the same time aims to become self-reliant, discover new places, meet new people.
Observe the child, crawling, while mom washes the dishes.For some time he plays contentedly saucers and bowls.Then he gets bored and decides to explore the dining room.He crawls under the furniture, picks up dust particles and try them on taste, rises to his feet to reach the drawer handles.After a while he seemed to feel again the need for the society, because suddenly rushes into the kitchen.First win the desire for independence, and then the desire for security.Each of these child needs satisfied in turn.As the months pass, he is in hi
I emphasize that independence is not only based on freedom, but also on security, because some are is currently vice versa.They are trying to "work out" in a child's independence, a long time leaving him alone in the room, even when he is crying from fear and calling my mother.I think if it to something forced, nothing good child learns.
year old child is at a crossroads.If he is given the opportunity, he will gradually become more independent: bolder will communicate with strangers (adults and children), more will rely on yourself to become cheerful.If it is kept locked, shield from communication, if he gets used to the fact that only a mother to him, and she was always taking care of him, he is firmly tied to her apron, timid with strangers, self-absorbed.How to help him to become independent?
let him out of the carriage, when he learns to walk.When a child learns to walk, it is necessary to produce while walking out of the carriage.No matter what the stain, the way it should be.Try to walk in a place where you will not need to rush to him at any moment, and where he can be with other children.If he picked up a cigarette butt, you have to run up, pick up and show something else interesting.We can not allow there is sand or earth, because it irritates the intestine and because it can be infected with worms.If he pulls into his mouth, give him a hard cracker or some clean object that he loves to chew, to his mouth was busy.Of course, if you keep the child knows how to walk in the stroller, it will save him from trouble, but do not teach independence and autonomy.Some parents prefer to use a special children's harness, especially when they go with him to the store or in a crowded place.However, it can not be used to bind the child and leave a long one.
let him out of the arena, if he asks. One child agree to stay in the arena, albeit not for long, even in the age of eighteen months.And the other is already at 9 months, said his prison.Most suffer arena before the age, until they learn to walk, that is, until about a year and a quarter.I would advise to release the child from the arena, if he does not like it.I do not mean the very first whimper, if you give him to play something new, he will be happy for at least another hour.The child grows out of the arena gradually.First arena bored with it, if you keep him in there too long.Gradually, the child is used to losing patience.And after a while he starts to resist at all when he was put in the playpen.In any case, let him, if he does not want to stay.
Let accustomed to strangers. In this age, the child belongs to the strangers in disbelief and suspicion, not yet consider them as follows.But then he can gradually get used to and make friends with them - in his own way, of course.He can just stand and watch or severely stretch the stranger some object, and then select it or bring something light from his room and put the visitor on his knees.
Many adults do not have enough tact to leave the child alone until he gets used to them.They climb to it, stick to talking, and child in search of protection runs to her mother.With these older he did not immediately make friends.I think the mother is in the beginning to tell the visitor: "Do not pay any attention to him at first.He is shy.If we talk a little, he mastered and meet you. "
When your child masters walking, give him the opportunity to meet more often with strangers and get used to them.Several times a week, take it with you to the store.If possible, allot a daily basis to a place where small children play.He still will not be able to play with them, but will be watching.If he gets used to play near them, then later, aged between two and three years, quickly learned to play with them.If he has never been.close to three years old, it would take months to get used to them.