Duties of the child
Let rejoices his duties. As a child learns to perform numerous duties?By its very nature, he begins to realize that getting dressed, brushing teeth, sweeping the floor, cleaning - all adult and attractive business.If the parents will be able to maintain good relations with him, when he gets older, he will bring joy to perform various orders: to bring firewood, beat carpets, - because he still wants to do important work and help mom and dad.Most of us (including the author) can not raise their children so as to ensure continued cooperation and understanding.But if we understand that the kids want to be useful, we will not be easier to turn chores into an unpleasant task.Just do not be irritated required to perform these duties.
can not be expected from the child's permanent responsible performance of their duties - even in 15 years.(Most adults also sometimes lose their sense of responsibility.) It is necessary to remind him.If you have enough patience, politely remind, "granted" tone, as though talkin
Dress. between half a year and the child tries to undress himself (he pulls the stocking to the most stomach, and he, of course, stuck).For two years he was already undressed quite successfully.Now he is trying very hard to put on, but it is confusing.It will take probably a year, he had learned to wear things easier, and most difficult, such as buttoning buttons or tying shoelaces, comprehends only four or five years.
period from a half to four years requires a lot of tact.If you do not allow your child to do what he can, or will constantly interfere, he would get angry.If he will not give to learn at that age, when he wants it, he may lose the desire for good.But if at first you will not help him, he will never be disappointed and will dress their own failure.Help him as discreetly as possible.Pull the sock a little bit, so it was easier to finish.Put the clothes that he will wear, so that it was more convenient.Engage his lighter parts of the work, and themselves perform more difficult.If he is confused, do not take everything for themselves, but help him unravel.Let continue to further itself.If he feels that you are with him, not against him, he will be much more compliant.But of course this takes a lot of patience.
cleaning toys. If your child is still small, and you want it to clean up after a toy, turn it into a part of the game and play with enthusiasm: "The square cubes go here, high in groups, and long - here.Imagine that there is a garage.Clippers go to sleep. "For four or five years he had become accustomed to clean up after themselves and will enjoy this lesson.Many times will do it without being asked.But if he sometimes still need help, help him as a friend.
If you say three year old child: "Now get out of here toy," it sounds unpleasant.Even if he likes this session, you have come to the point very practical, and it is a three-year kid will not like.In addition, he is in the "stubborn" age.
Benevolent assistance in cleaning not only develop a good relationship, but it is easier for the mother than for many disputes.
Digger. If you have seen ever, as a mother trying to raise the morning sluggish child as she had wings, warns, scolds - get up out of bed, wash, get dressed, eat breakfast, do not be late to school - you will immediately swear that they themselves neverYou will not behave this way.The child was not born Digger.He became gradually they, in most cases, because of the constant pushing, "have quickly finished", "How many times to tell you: go to bed!".It is easy to develop the habit of constantly to hurry the child, but it brings it stubbornness.Parents say that if they do not hurry up, the child will never finish.It's a vicious circle, but his parents began.Most mother.Perhaps the nature of her impatient, used to customize other forever - especially men.And usually not even aware of how the initiative deprives his own son.
In the early days, even before the child is able to follow instructions, help him to cope with daily activities.When he becomes older and is ready to take responsibility, move into the background as soon as possible.If he hesitated, something to forget, quietly take command of themselves.When he goes to school, teach him to think that this is now his care - do not be late.Perhaps it is useful to allow him a time or two late or even miss the school bus and lessons let feel regret and remorse.The child is much more than a mother regrets if miss something.This is the most reliable stimulus for him.
You may find, though, I believe that a child should not have any responsibilities.On the contrary.I believe that he must sit at the table when the food is ready, and get up in the morning in the allotted time.Only- I want to say that if he let most of the time to exercise their own initiative, to resemble "self-evident" tone when he forgets to do something, do not criticize and do not be customized in advance, do not push too, he usually performs all necessary.