When problems begin with appetite. Why are so many children eat poorly?Most of all, because.mothers too are trying to get them to eat better.In puppies do not have problems with appetite, they do not happen, and in children in those parts of the world where the mother does not know anything about diet so do not worry.You can jokingly say that it takes more knowledge and a lot of time to have problems with appetite.
One child is born like a wolf appetite that does not change it, even when he is upset or sick.The other appetite worse and easy to effect mood or illness.The first child if born to be complete;the second was destined to remain thin.But every child is born with an appetite that needs to save his health and to ensure a normal rate of growth and development.
The trouble begins when the child has an innate instinct stubborn, if he is forced to, or refuse to eat, which is associated with some discomfort in the past.Another complication is that the human appetite is not always directed to the
All problems begin with poor appetite coercion.The child may stop eating due to jealousy of his younger brother, or because of the many other concerns.But whatever the original cause, the mother and her perseverance anxiety impair the appetite and prevent its return.
a moment put yourself in the place of the child.When you are not very hungry To better understand it, think of the time.Perhaps the day was hot and muggy, and you were disturbed by something, or have upset stomach.(It feels like a child who has problems with the appetite.) Now imagine that sitting beside you nervous giantess and monitors each spoon into his mouth.You ate a little of what you like, and put down his fork, feeling that he ate.However, she worriedly looks at you and says, "You have not touched a turnip."You explain that it is not like a turnip, but it apparently does not understand that you feel and act as if you purposely behave badly.When she says that you do not get up from the table until you clean the dishes, you try to eat a little turnip, but you start potashnivat.She dials a spoonful and pushes you in the mouth, and you start to choke.
treatment requires time and patience. When having problems with appetite, it takes a lot of time, patience and understanding to solve them.The mother begins to worry.She discovers that as long as the child has become ill, it is difficult to relax.Her concern and perseverance, and above all prevent appetite to return to the child.Even if with great effort the mother will make itself change will take many weeks to come back to the child's appetite.He should be allowed to gradually forget all the unpleasant associations with dining time.
His appetite as a mouse, and the mother's anxiety - a cat that has landed in the mouse hole.It is impossible to persuade mouse become bolder because the cat looks the other way.The cat must permanently leave the mouse alone.
Dr. Clara Davis found that children who do not have any prejudice concerning food, ultimately themselves choose a balanced diet, if they are offered a varied natural food.But you can not expect a child who for months or years refused any product, such as vegetables, suddenly began to eat it because his mother gave him a free choice.He can eat vegetables in the camp, where they were eating all the others where he is hungry and where no one is its not force them to eat.But at home with vegetables for him due too many unpleasant associations.As soon as he sees them, soul and stomach telling him: "No!»
mother also has the right to feel. And by the time she had to deal with long-standing problem of appetite is very strong feelings.The most obvious of them - alarm: the child gets sick as a result of malnutrition or starvation he drop resistance to common diseases.The doctor again and again assures her that children with poor appetite do not become susceptible to disease, but it is difficult to believe it.
She tends to consider himself guilty, thinking that her husband, relatives, neighbors, doctors believe her unfit mother.Of course, this is not so.Rather, they understand it, and because their families had at least one child with a poor appetite.
Then the inevitable feeling of irritation and anger on this sucker, which is absolutely not subject to the mother's efforts.This is the most uncomfortable feeling, because conscientious mother begins to be ashamed of themselves.
Interestingly, many parents who are faced with similar problems, remember that they themselves as a child was a poor appetite and the same difficulties.They remember all too well, as they are forced to eat, but for some reason can not do otherwise.In this case, feelings of irritation, anger and anxiety experienced by parents - is partly remnants of feelings experienced by them as a child.
child rarely threatened. important to remember that a child exists an innate mechanism that tells how much food.And what exactly he needs for normal growth and development.Very rarely due to poor appetite occur severe malnutrition, vitamin deficiencies and infectious diseases.
But a child who does not eat, needs the help of a doctor: he has to time to examine the child from time to evaluate his diet - he gives and what it is not enough to recommend the replacement or medication to make up the missing, to advise how to raisethe child not only in terms of power, but in other respects, and to reassure the mother.
Meal time should be enjoyable. The goal is not to force the child to eat, and to come back to his natural appetite, and that he wanted to have.
Try not to talk about food nor threats, nor encouragement.I would not praise the child when he ate a lot, or be disappointed if little.With experience, you learn to not think about it, and that is progress.When a child ceases to feel the pressure, he can once again pay attention to your appetite.
Sometimes we hear advice: "Put the food to the child, do not say anything to him, remove half an hour later, as he neither ate.Do not give him anything until the next meal. "If this is done in the right spirit, it is the mother really trying not to fuss, do not worry because the child's appetite and to be friendly to him, all right then.But sometimes angry mother understands this advice in its own way.She throws a plate at the table in front of the child and grimly said, "If you do not eat for half an hour, I'll take you to dinner and did not get anything!" And it is worth waiting for, glaring at him.Threats to harden the child and take away the last remnants of appetite.Stubborn child always win in this battle.
you do not want your child to eat, because he lost in the battle with you.You'll want to eat it, because he wants to have.
Start with dishes that he likes the most.Do you want to, when to be called to the table, he began to flow salivating, that he could not wait for the food.The first step to this - two or three months to prepare healthy dishes that he likes (the need as far as possible to comply with a balanced diet), and not to offer that it actively did not like.
child who loves very much. mother might say: "The children who do not like one thing, there is no problem.And my love only burgers, bananas, oranges, fruit and water.Sometimes it agrees to eat a slice of white bread or a couple tablespoons of peas.And everything else and does not touch. "
This is a serious problem, but the principle is the same.You can give this child a breakfast of sliced bananas and a piece of bread;hamburger for lunch, two spoonfuls of peas or orange;for dinner even bread with a banana.Let get supplement any of these dishes if asked.Within a few days, let him various combinations of these dishes.To abstain rigorously from the fruit water.Sweet fruit water takes away the last remnants of the appetite for more valuable foods.
When two months later the child is already awaiting food, add two tablespoons (not more) of a dish that he had eaten before - not one of those that he really did not like.Do not mention the addition.Do not make comments, if he will not eat.Try the same thing a couple of weeks, and in between try something else.The speed at which you will introduce new dishes, it depends on how the child improves appetite and how it perceives the new food..
does not distinguish between different dishes.Let eat four servings of food and no one - other, so if he wants (as long as the food is not harmful).If he does not want the first and second, and wanted a dessert, with the deadpan give him dessert.If you say: "There is no second, until you eat vegetables," or "There is no dessert until you clear the plate," you have worsen his appetite for vegetables, or to the first dish, and the efforts of his desire to meat or dessert.These results are just the opposite of what you are striving for.
You certainly do not want your child ate always so one-sided.However, if he has any problems with appetite, and it is suspicious of some of the dishes, your best chance to get it back to a normal diet - to pretend that you are not alarmed.I think a big mistake when parents insist that a child "only tried to" dish, to which the suspect.If he eats what makes him disgusted, even just a little, it reduces the likelihood that he will change his mind and will love this dish.And more generally worsen his appetite.Do not make it for dinner, there is something from which he refused for lunch.So you are asking for trouble.
Give him as much as he will eat, but not more. child with poor appetite, let small portions.If you apply a full plate, thus reminding him of what he had to a large number of abandoned and even worsen his appetite.But if in the first portion will give him less than he is ready to eat, you will come across it on the idea: "It's not enough."You want it to be thought so.Want to food seemed to him anything tempting.If he has a very poor appetite, let's tiny portions: a teaspoon of meat, vegetables teaspoon, a teaspoon of gruel.When he eats, do not ask me enthusiastically: "Do additives you want?" Let asks himself, even if it takes a few days to feed its tiny portions.
Let him eat himself. Should the mother to feed the child with a poor appetite?The child who is properly educated, he begins to have between 12 and 18 months.But if anxious mother feeds it to two, three or four years (probably with endless persuasion), nothing will help, even if it decides to stay.Now, the child simply have no desire to.He believes that his obligation to feed.For him, it is now evidence of maternal love and care.If it suddenly stops, he will be offended.Maybe even two or three days did not eat anything - and this is longer than able to sustain any mother.And when she again begins to feed him, he was already at her held his offense.And when she tries to stop again to feed him, he already knows its strength and its weakness.
child two years of age or older must have himself as soon as he is ready for that.But this is a delicate matter, and it takes several weeks for him.You should not create the impression he has that are trying to deprive him of his privileges.You want it to be started there himself, because he wants to.
Give him his favorite dishes for lunch and dinner every day.Placing before him the plate back to the kitchen for a minute or two, leave in the next room as if something was forgotten.Every day, stay out a little longer.Go back and without comment briskly feed him, whether he ate something he ate or not.If he loses patience when you are out and call you back immediately with a friendly apology.Probably, his progress will be unstable.After one or two weeks he will be able to eat once almost entirely on their own, and the next time will require to be fed from the beginning to the end.Do not argue with them at this time.If he eats only one for a meal, do not force him to eat more.If he is satisfied with what he had eaten, praise him for what he is a big boy, but not too hot, and he suspects a trick.
For example, a week later you leave it for ten minutes or fifteen, and it is during this time did not eat anything.Then we must make him hungry.Gradually over three to four days to reduce by half the amount of food that you usually give him.This should make him try to have the most, if you show enough tact and friendliness.
By the time he eats half the food on their own, I think it's better to let him get up from the table, than to finish feeding with a spoon.No matter what he had just left some food.He is hungry and will eat more quickly.If you continue to finish feeding him, he never wants to handle himself.Just say, "I think, with you enough."If he asks you to its supplementary feeding, give him two or three spoons, not to argue, and say that it is enough.
After he had for several weeks eats itself, do not go back to old habits and do not feed it.Sometimes he was very tired and asks: "Feed me."In this case, with a straight face give him a couple of tablespoons, and then tell me that he was not very hungry.I say this because I know a mother who nursed the child for too long, but finally managed to teach him to eat alone, feels a strong temptation to start again to feed him as soon as he lost his appetite or become ill.But with this you need to put an end once and for all.
Should mother stay in the room until he eats? It depends on what was used and what the child wants and how well the mother is able to control his anxiety.If she always sat with him, she can not suddenly disappear without upsetting the child.If it can be sociable, calm and not think about food, and it can be (no matter whether she eats at this time itself).But if she says that he could not tear himself away from the child's mind to stop eating or to persuade him, for it is better to leave at meal time - not angrily, not suddenly, but gradually and tactfully, missing every day a little longer, so that the child did not notice the change.
no bribery. Of course, there should be no attempt to bribe a child like fairy-tale promises for every spoonful or that dad will be on your mind when it's over spinach.At that moment, he seems convinced that the baby to eat a little more.But ultimately it gradually worsens appetite.Parents have to increase the size of bribes in order to achieve some results.It will end all the tedious hour vaudeville for five mouthfuls.
Do not offer the child has to earn a dessert or candy, or a gold star, or any other award.Do not ask to eat at Aunt Masha, or that my mother was happy, or to grow big and strong, or not to be ill, or to clean the plate.Formulate a rule in short: do not ask a child to eat.
no particular harm, if the mother over dinner to tell a story, or turn on the radio, if that is the custom in the family, but this should not be due to the fact the child eats or not.
not necessarily have to be "under the thumb" of the child. I have so much to say that the child must have, because he wants to, that might get the wrong idea from some parents.I remember a mother suffering from poor appetite, seven-year daughter, she tried to persuade;I begged, forced.