overbearing grandmother .

August 12, 2017 17:51 | Parents


Sometimes there are grandmothers who are used to arbitrarily dispose of his daughter, and she can not stop them, even now, when she became a mother.This young mother at first will not be easy.She is afraid of hints.They get angry her, but she is afraid to show their feelings.If she takes advice feels oppressed if rejected - guilty.As a start to protect the mother in such a situation?As if she has to pick up his hair.In a sense, because it and there, but it is better to learn this skill gradually and in practice.First of all, it must constantly remind ourselves that it is now a mother, it was her child, that she needed to think about and take care of it.She should be able to receive support for a doctor or visiting nurse if doubts in their methods.It should definitely count on the support of her husband, especially if it interferes with the mother.If he believes that in certain situations the right of his mother, he has to say about his wife, but also to show his mother that he supports his wife and pr

otect her independence.

Young mothers need to learn not to avoid grandmother it is not afraid of her words, because both of these reactions give her weakness, inability to resist.Even more difficult to learn to not accumulate anger inside and not suddenly explode.You can say that the anger of a young mother acquitted.But the pent-up anger and sudden explosions - are signs that it is too long to be in subjection fear angry grandmother.The imperious grandmother usually notice these signs of timidity and uses them.If you have to annoy her, the young mother should not be afraid.In fact it will not need to sort things out - and if they have, then no more than once or twice.Young mother must learn to defend their rights, she should casually confident tone say before angry: «So I was told to feed the child the doctor," or "You know, I do not want the child to overheat," or "I do not wantso that he wept too. "Such a calm confident tone - usually the best means to convince the grandmother that the mother have the courage to stand up for their beliefs.

In those rare cases, when you create and maintain a constant voltage, the parents, maybe grandparents too, is to consult with a specialist - wise family doctor, psychiatrist, social worker, priest reasonable - preferably separately, so that everyone can present a pictureas he sees it, although the final decision will have to get together.It should always be borne in mind that the ultimate responsibility and authority to make decisions belong to parents.