If the daughter- in-law fight

Yes, he is going through.And the mother was dear to him and his wife.And, according to the classification of internal conflict Kurt Lewin (I already talked about this above), here there is a conflict "approach - the approach": I want to be with my mother and I want to be with my wife.But if you want it quickly develops into a conflict "avoidance-avoidance": I do not want to part with her mother and did not want to leave his wife.But it's not that "do not want to plunge into the cool water and do not want to languish in the sun."Parting with his mother, which sprouted in your heart, and leave with his wife, without which you are not my husband, not my father, not a man, not a man ... Yes, this internal conflict will lead you sooner or later to a heart attack, and want to strokeand do not want to, well, to the plague ...

Here, dear, two women Each of you is precious to him on the.And we need to temper his selfish love.And an opponent to concede part of you does not belong.

What should a loving mother-in

-law?Remember Sigmund Freud.Oedipus complex - son attachment to his mother.But it must recall the biblical commandment: man peeled himself from the parents, and shall cleave to his wife.Erich Fromm wrote about the need to overcome too crushing kinship.Freudian term "incest" - attachment to the mother and son to the daughter of his father - he interpreted more as a broad attachment to the family, even to the home.Excessive attachment to the family, in his opinion, is not suitable.In short, my dear mother, you gave birth to and raised a son, not only for themselves.Such Selyava dialectic.It is necessary to share.Love as well.Love son as well.With daughter including.But greed does not lead to good.Also, do not over happens, that no daughter, you do not become my grandmother, will not be a grand Mutter.So, your feminine nature was not realized in full.And you do want it to be realized in full.Illegally claiming that you are not supposed to - part of filial love, which belongs by right of his wife and his kids, you are deprived of what belongs to you by right - love grandchildren and love for their grandchildren and all communication with them..Well, it does not count all on the computer, but in the soul ... And try to preserve and strengthen the relationship with his daughter.Remember grandmother accountant, whose daughter was taken away and her son and her grandchildren in Yemen? ..

And that should tell yourself-law wife?I love this man.I came all the same from the outside, to "gotovenkogo".Shaking his rights, I rock the boat of family happiness.No, you have to tell yourself that mother-nursed my husband brought up the way I loved him.I should be grateful to her for it.

And yet ... and yet she must understand that in-law - this is the best in the world loving nanny, potential assistant to her motherhood.

Of course, "my mother - the world's best nanny for my future baby, but his mother rather retire than mine, it is because the older (if talk about the standard version), so she used to be able to help me."And in any case, both grandmothers - better than the government house, which is inadequate to idealistic hope is called kindergarten.I would say that his mother will retire for a couple of years later than the first-born is born.But, firstly, it is easier to turn, if there is and his mother, and not just "my", and secondly, because the will and the second child, and then, God willing, and the third ...

Similar "subjects"played between the mother-in-law and.Mother-in-law also likes to teach life.A boy-husband does not like morals.But these relations are still less strenuous.Still, the opposite sex people.A mother-in-law - still molodyaschayasya woman.So it kind of softens.

But here require psychotherapeutic self-hypnosis.For the son-mother-in-law - also a grandmother of his child.And she gave birth to and brought him his favorite wife (and he should be grateful to her for it).One husband admitted to his friends, mother-in-law, children, it is half a wife.

A mother-in-law has to be grateful to him for being here created a family and her little girl, beloved daughter, was attached, married to a good boy.Without it, I can not become a grand Mutter.And to have grandchildren - a repetition of parenthood.And the grandchildren should have the pope, rather than the "hem brought» ...