Even with all the complications in married life , married men live longer than bachelors.

This is symptomatic.

And if we take no less symptomatic phenomenon - suicide?This refers to the completed suicide, not showy.They are much more likely to complete the life of people living out of wedlock, or are in the process of divorce.But we will not speak here of the sad.About suicide, we'll talk elsewhere.

In marriage, namely marriage and, in fact, only in marriage can be a mutual empathy.Empathy I define as follows: it is - empathy in the mind of another person with compassion and empathy.Let us distinguish the concept of negative empathy.This is also empathy in the mind of another person, but with the aim of psychologists

cal and material exploitation.For us it is important that empathy, positive empathy, welcome to us in marriage appears more pronounced.I grieve your grief, I am happy with your happiness.Moreover, I do everything to the joys you have had more, but less than sorrow.Thin psychologist Vadim Arturovich Peter calls it an effective group of emotional identification.He must say, Doc

tor of Psychology, Professor, chlenkorrespodent Russian Academy of Education.But above all, it is a subtle psychologist, as I have already said.And it was he who came up with this important term, and as a longish term, he gave him an abbreviated version DGEI.I took the students: let DGEI.Already accustomed to: DGEI = effective group emotional identification.It turns out that the old term "empathy" for many years served as humanistic psychology faithfully, does not fully reflect the essence.We can say that it displays more passive empathy.A DGEI - it is like a more active empathy.That is one thing, if I'm shudder of what hurt you.And another thing - if I drop everything and run to the other end of the city for pain medicine.Empathy and "DGEIem" permeated everything in the optimal status.Dell cut its luxurious hair to buy for Christmas my husband a chain for his pocket watch, and Jim sold his watch to buy Della comb for her luxurious hair.This is a story by O. Henry "Gifts of the Magi".The irony, but finer and clearly more poignant than in the famous film "Irony of Fate."

unlikely that other forms zhenskomuzhskogo union can "boast" such a deep interpenetration of empathy.I do not want to give a lot of examples, and so they all lie on the surface.Let the reader himself will find them.I can only say that empathy and DGEI - the meaning of marriage.

And roditelskodetskih relations.I sit at the computer, "not bothering anyone."My three year old daughter Kate then goes to me with a request to "popikat".I care that she likes to work on the computer.So easier to learn the alphabet, even computer graphics elements.And easy to agree:

- Then give me ,null, please markers.I paint with them on the floor.

Since the child is doing much by imitation and raise it empathy and DGEI is easier if the supplied example.

So, since the couple is in their relationship habit, the child absorbs it and nurtured it.That's so simple and tasteful and everything happens if the marriage harmonious ... And even if not very harmonious, but the marriage.After all, if the marriage is still there, from time to time will be shown empathy ... and DGEI.But, of course, it is better to make an effort and to optimize it.However, if the family has collapsed, what kind of empathy can be a speech?As a child, it will be brought up?Since coming ...

parent can expand the idea.It encourages empathy and DGEI moral code of Jesus Christ.This "Love thy neighbor.of her as yourself. "This "Throw a stone at me, if no sin."It is in the "If you have two things, give the other poor."This is the response of Christ the young man who asked, "how to be saved": "All Share".It is that Christ took upon himself the sins of mankind ...

I'm not a believer.And not all the commandments are strictly adhered to.But I share many of them.But those "believers" who odch simultaneously stealing, I would advise you to listen and do all the commandments.And that after all languages ​​hellfire already get to their heels ... But people practicing at least a moral code of humanism, that is a humanistic psychology, I advise you to cultivate empathy and to practice DGEI.And first of all in the family ... In this case it is necessary that all this was mutual.